There Is No Wrong Way To Feel After A Breakup

I’ve gone through break ups in which I find myself sucking face with someone new twelve hours after I thought my heart would be forever broken. I’ve also had a breakup in which I still find myself crying when I’m reminded of him through things like thunderstorms or when someone brings up the show Downton Abby. There are few incorrect ways to respond to a breakup — although violence in any way shape or form would be one of them.

There is no right amount of time for you to grieve the ending of a romantic connection that you had with someone. Any friend of yours who tells you to “just over it” is an asshole and you should probably stop returning their calls.

When a relationship ends and two people attempt to salvage the lives they had before they became intertwined. After every break up, I will spend weeks meticulously pulling apart my own neurosis from the traits I picked up from being around someone else. Sometimes it’s impossible for me to remember who I was before them. Sometimes it’s obvious to me that I had compromised so much of myself to be their man.

In a breakup, each person wants to appear like they came out of the relationship with the most benefits. They want to know that they’re the one who gained more knowledge, experience, and perspective. More importantly, they want to appear to be the one less damaged by the fallout to those on the outside.

I always hope after a breakup the next time I run into my ex I will look super-mega-foxy-hot with a beautiful man on my arms. I hope I come across as happy, and fulfilled, and did I mention hot? I think this is because I want something to show for the relationship. I want to show how I’ve taken everything I’ve learned and how I’ve improved.

But why is it that we need tangible things to prove that we are better off without someone? We’ll choose to change our hair, our clothes, and our attitudes because we want to invent a new “me” for ourselves.

What we fail to realise is that we’re sometimes doing this more for those around us. We want to remind them that we’re doing okay. We want our friends and acquaintances to believe that we’re loving life and laughing more and looking better because without our ex in our life we’re completely reborn. We want to know that we came out of the relationship a better human being. It’s comforting to think that even though we suffered the fights, and the crying, and the crushing separation that we emerged more enlightened.

I sometimes wonder if it’s better to just show other people how you’re truly feeling. After a breakup I don’t feel like showering or working out or eating anything other than junk food.

However, I push myself to the gym, or to get coffee with old friends, and to style my hair a new way in spite of the pain I feel. I do these things because I feel the need to fool others around me into thinking I’m perfectly. At least for a little while, because eventually I will be.

Gratituesday - Sunshine and Fresh Stars

With Spring well and truly here it always makes me feel like it's time for a fresh start of some kind! Some big decisions have been made over here, and for the better and there is something about Spring which makes everything and anything seem possible! 

It really does!


Why yes.

This song.



Yummy hot chocolates

Ice cream


Little Things...

Summer playslists The gym Going to for a sprint in the woods Bluebells Cheat days Coffee (always) Long walks and long conversations Realising you have the most amazing friends in the world Supportive family Cooking Prawns Sparkling water, fresh lime and lots of ice Fruit salad (finally cheaper!) Plotting Mexico trips Kindness New skin care regimes  

What has been lighting up your galaxy this week? Write your list below, ’cause we love to read them!

Macro Monday - 181!

It's that time of the week, hope the sun is shining where you are and lets get our lols on!

 They really do.

Happy kitty.

 lols forever

Really does

True story



 gotta love mums


so true




True that



Have a great week!

Fashion Friday - Sheer Tops!

This week are lusting after all and everything sheer! So here are our top picks for sheer tops! 

This detailed crop

Loving the fraying 

Roses always.

A touch of sparkle.

Al about the details 

Love embroidery over a sheer top!

Dare to bare just your back

 Ruffle love

Keeping it girly

Is sheer something you would wear?